The Problem of Nashville

Nashville is great. I’m one of the few that grew up here. I was actually born in this city. My dad grew up here, mom grew up within a few miles of here, as did 3 of my 4 grandparents. We’ve been here a while, and I’m very proud of that.

Nashville has been an “it” city for several years now. I could have told you that before the craze started. People have been moving here for decades to pursue music after they became the big fish in a little pond wherever they were raised.


I never had that big-fish-in-a-little-pond experience. This Nashville pond is more like a Great Lake. What I have discovered is that Nashville locals don’t attend music shows like in other areas. Music is too common. Why go out tonight when I can go out any night? That usually turns into rarely going out to hear live music at all. I know because I’ve been there.

My wife and I have decided to change our habits of never going out for several reasons. One, for me, is “do unto others as you would have them do for you.” I love it when people come out to our shows. The people who come often say things like, “I love seeing y’all play! It’s so great! I didn’t realize how much fun this is!” I know it’s hard to get butts in seats. It hurts to see empty rooms. It feels awkward always telling friends about shows only to hear three words in return: “Sorry, I can’t.”

My wife says I’m loyal, sometimes to a fault. I try to keep up with other musicians, buy their records, go to their shows, and show up for anything possible. I don’t really care whether I like the music (although I have very talented friends); it’s about supporting a person, a friend. I do it because I know what it feels like if no one shows up.

Music City, U.S.A. is a hard place to grow up in music. Why go hear someone you know but don’t know their music when you could go elsewhere and hear someone sing their 15 top-10 hits at a writer’s night next door? Sometimes we talk about moving anywhere else because we want to be big fish. Little fish get thrown back in the water.

If I didn’t believe so much in the music we make, I wouldn’t take it so personally. I know the music we create and the experience we provide is better than most of this town. I just wish others would take the little time and effort it takes to see this too.

College Football at Tennessee

Fire Butch Jones if you think you can find someone better.

I don’t think you can find someone better.  There is only one Nick Saban.  The closest thing to another Saban that I have been able to find is an Urban Meyer, and he is closely followed by a Jim Harbaugh for now.  After that, there is a gap before a Jimbo Fisher.  They don’t make those kinds of coaches very often.

Butch Jones is a good coach.  If the coaches above are the only great coaches, then Butch is a good coach.  I’m perfectly happy with a good coach!  Not-good coaches for Tennessee have looked like Lane Kiffin and Derek Dooley.  Kiffin took a program that was already in a little bit of trouble with the NCAA and made it worse.  Dooley didn’t really do anything wrong – he just didn’t do anything.

Then comes Butch.  He coached some boys and helped make them men.  He did what he could to make sure they were doing the right things like staying out of trouble and studying.  I haven’t looked at numbers of arrests, but it seems to me that there have been fewer during Butch’s tenure than during Phillip Fulmer’s.

Butch started recruiting star players.  He recruited ones that he thought would fit his program – ones that had character and talent.  Sometimes you get a player in that doesn’t buy into the coaching philosophy.  One of Tennessee’s players who best exemplifies that is Alvin Kamara…when he was at Alabama.  The problem comes when you have someone who doesn’t fit, who took up a scholarship spot, and there are not enough qualified young men to step up into the roll.  With only being able to sign so many players a year, it takes a little while to stock-pile the roster like an Alabama – they have a senior go down, and there is a junior to replace him.

Then the injuries.  I really believe strength and conditioning only goes so far.  When multiple players all go down with shoulder injuries (like 2015), I understand how that can be strength and conditioning.  When the injuries are all over the body (2016), I’m not sure who to blame.  That feels more like we, as humans, are passing our limit of the abuse our bodies can take.

Our defense wasn’t supposed to win championships, not from what I was told.  I was told our defense was supposed to beat Florida, which it did.  After that, we dwindled down to zero defensive tackles.  I’m not sure how many football fans out there actually know the difference between a defensive end and a defensive tackle – it seems like most who talk about Tennessee don’t know the difference – but they aren’t interchangeable.  Tennessee had to interchange them, and look where that got our defense the last three games.

Would I have gone for it on fourth-and-four?  Absolutely.  Score a touchdown, get a two-point conversion, and then you just have to get within field goal range to have a chance to tie.  That, I thought, was playing to win.  If Butch had kicked a field goal and not been able to score a touchdown at the end, I bet the same people saying he made the wrong call by going for it would say he made the wrong call by kicking a field goal first.

So fire Butch Jones if you think you can find a better coach.  Tom Herman lost a game he should not have lost to Memphis, yet he’s still heralded at the second coming of Christ at Texas.  I don’t think Herman could do better at Tennessee.  I think Tennessee fans, and any fan of a college football team, should realize that these things take time unless your name is Saban, Meyer, or Harbaugh.  Butch is a good coach, and I wouldn’t trade him for any other coach out there – not even Saban, Meyer, or Harbaugh.  If Tennessee lets Butch do his job, and think we will all be happy.  If we let him finish what he is only starting at Tennessee, everything will be just fine.

Why I’m a Disney Fan

I’m spending my Sunday prepping CDs for an upcoming tour date, folding laundry, cleaning, and watching Disneynature: Wings of Life.  I have been a Disney fan for a long time.  Nearly every child, at some point, loves Disney – they have a movie they love, a character with whom they identify, or that trip to Disney World that they remember forever.

The moment that did me in was a trip, I believe in middle or high school, to WDW with the family.  I remember walking down Main Street, U.S.A. with my dad when he pointed out the second story of the shops on Main Street.  He told me about how the second story is designed and built to be just a little bit shorter than the first story, thus creating an effect as you look down Main Street to the Castle.  It makes the Castle that much bigger – all thanks to “forced perspective.”

Since then, I fell in love with the details.  Don’t get me wrong – I love the attractions too!  The beauty is in the details.  The bathrooms are clean.  There is no trash on the ground thanks to Cast Members picking up any trash that hits the ground.  Characters only refer to things inside the Disney universe.  Every queue is themed down to every detail!  This is what made me fall in love with the parks, and I see it in everything Disney does.


Jessie and I went to Disney World for our honeymoon (and twice in the 4 years since).  While we were there, we saw a movie poster for Chimpanzee while on the Backlot Tour in Hollywood Studios.  Shortly after getting home, the movie was released in theaters, and we went to see it.  I realized then how much effort was put into making perfect pictures.

I can’t create perfection, especially not in everything I do everyday.  I can, however, strive to create the best possible experience for others through the music we create, the way we present that music, and how we communicate with fans.  Our CDs, though “home-made,” look planned and intentional.  Jessie creates cool-looking graphics to advertise shows and music releases.  If we create enjoyable experiences, people will return.

This is what Disney has done – they have created enjoyable experiences so that people will return.  The cheapest advertising is keeping current customers happy and making them happy enough to tell others about how great their experience was.

Disney World is a beautiful example of marketing and taking care of customers.  I know it costs money to go to Disney, but it wouldn’t be packed all the time if it were not worth it.  This is why I love Disney.

Thanks to Dad for pointing out the details that started me on this fascination; my friend Chris for having the same love and passion for all things Disney; Lou for his WDW Radio Podcast to keep me engulfed in the details of Disney; and finally, Jessie for loving all of this with me, even if not quite to the same extent. 😉

WDW Radio

It’s Valentine’s Day

It’s the last installment of my Valentine’s blog series. The first time I heard this song, I instantly thought of my wife. She works so incredibly hard chasing a dream, and she sometimes has those days when it all seems like too much. Break on me. I want to be that place for her.

Happy Valentine’s Day, dear.

There’ll be days your heart don’t wanna beat
You pray more than you breathe
And you just wanna fall to pieces
And nights, those 2 AM calls
Where dreams become walls
And you just need a break
Break on me

Shatter like glass
Come apart in my hands
Take as long as it takes, girl
Break on me
Put your head on my chest
Let me help you forget
When your heart needs to break
Just break on me

There’ll be times when someone you know
Becomes someone you knew
But you’d do anything to change it
And words you wanna take back
But you know you can’t
When the page just won’t turn
And it still hurts
Break on me

Shatter like glass
Come apart in my hands
Take as long as it takes, girl
Break on me
Put your head on my chest
Let me help you forget
When your heart needs to break
Just break on me

Oh, when you need somebody
When you need somebody right now
You’re where I’ll be
Break on me

Shatter like glass
Come apart in my hands
Take as long as it takes, girl
Break on me
Put your head on my chest
Let me help you forget
When your heart needs to break
Just break on me
Break on me
Break on me, baby

Keith Urban’s Valentine, part 1

I’m a huge KU fan, and this is one of my favorite songs that he has recorded. I love it now because I love making memories with my wife – road trips to gigs, vacations, walks through the park, etc. This song took on new meaning when I met my wife.

 

I’m gonna be here for you baby
I’ll be a man of my word
Speak the language in a voice that you have never heard
I wanna sleep with you forever
And I wanna die in your arms
In a cabin by a meadow where the wild bees swarm

And I’m gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I’ll earn your trust making memories of us

I wanna honor your mother
And I wanna learn from your pa
I wanna steal your attention like a bad outlaw
I wanna stand out in a crowd for you
A man among men
I wanna make your world better than it’s ever been

And I’m gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I’ll earn your trust making memories of us

We’ll follow the rainbow
Wherever the four winds blow
And there’ll be a new day
Comin’ your way

I’m gonna be here for you from now on
This you know somehow
You’ve been stretched to the limits but it’s alright now
And I’m gonna make you a promise
If there’s life after this
I’m gonna be there to meet you with a warm, wet kiss

And I’m gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I’ll earn your trust making memories of us
I’m gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I’ll win your trust making memories of us

 

Lord Valentine

I remember a few poems vaguely from school, and I seem to think this is one we read. It tells of the dark mystery and beautiful radiance that is a woman. My wife is both wrapped up in her beautiful skin, and this poem makes me think of her.

She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellow’d to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impair’d the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!

– Lord Byron

Valentine’s – E. B. Browning

A poem of love for my sweet wife that loves me more than I deserve.

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight.
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, –I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

– Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Valentine’s Part 1

I believe I have yet to spend a Valentine’s Day with my wife. This March will be our 4-year anniversary. Since I won’t be able to return home until late on the 14th, I am going to do my best to post a song, poem, or prose each evening for her. I hate that I have to travel like this, and I want her to know I think about her o, so much!

I’m going to start the week with a band that we both love and a song that I know explains how I feel every morning when I leave for work. I’ll post the lyrics and then a link to the video on YouTube for your viewing pleasure as well.

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
While you’re far away and dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
I could stay lost in this moment forever
Every moment spent with you is a moment I treasure

Don’t wanna close my eyes
I don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream would never do
I’d still miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing

Lying close to you feeling your heart beating
And I’m wondering what you’re dreaming,
Wondering if it’s me you’re seeing
Then I kiss your eyes and thank God we’re together
And I just wanna stay with you
In this moment forever, forever and ever

I don’t wanna close my eyes
I don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream would never do
I’d still miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing

I don’t wanna miss one smile
I don’t wanna miss one kiss
Well, I just wanna be with you
Right here with you, just like this
I just wanna hold you close
I feel your heart so close to mine
And just stay here in this moment
For all the rest of time

Don’t wanna close my eyes
Don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream would never do
I’d still miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing

I don’t wanna close my eyes
I don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream would never do
and I’d still miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
Don’t wanna close my eyes
I don’t wanna fall asleep
I don’t wanna miss a thing
I don’t wanna miss a thing